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What Would Someone Who Loved Themselves Do?


What would someone who loved themselves do?

Do you ever ask yourself that question?

I’m guessing most likely, no.

How do I know this?

Because I talk to and coach a lot people who clearly are not deeply in love with themselves, at least in certain areas of their lives.

And the same goes for me.

I know that the Rebecca of the way past did not love herself in the slightest.

  • She drank alcohol and smoked cigarettes.
  • She ate junk food like it was her job.
  • She consumed an enormous amount of Diet Coke.
  • She was overweight and hardly ever worked out.
  • She was a bitch to the people she claimed to love, a lot of the time. And the rest of the time, she was clingy and needy and possessive.
  • She was promiscuous.
  • She loathed the person she saw in the mirror.
  • She degraded herself; out loud and in her head.

She was a real, hot mess!

Fast forward many years, and most of these things are no longer part of my reality, but the deeper I dig, the more I realize that I still haven’t been truly loving myself 100%.

But, I am continuing to find ways to work on myself that I know work for me and new tools I haven’t used before, or at least not consistently.

When I talk to and coach people in my lifestyle coaching practice, I hear a lot of stories that I can relate to and empathize with.

Some are stories that are more along the lines of people just being stuck and needing the push and the tools to get unstuck.

Then there are some that are truly heartbreaking and I have a difficult time wrapping my head around how someone could survive such a thing.

Regardless, as a human on this earth, we have shit we need to deal with so we can be the person this world deserves.

And that starts with learning to love ourselves.

This will be slightly different for each person, but some simple steps to start with are:

  1. Exercising, moving your body and being active. EVERY DAMN DAY.
  2. Eating real food. As in, things that have as few ingredients as possible and all are things your great grandparents would have recognized as food.
  3. Drink mostly water.
  4. Cut out most or all sugar out of your life. The processed kind, not the kind found in fruit.
  5. Meditate.
  6. Read and/or listen to personal development every day.
  7. Refrain from watching or listening to the news nonstop.
  8. Limit your time with those who bring you down, abuse you or treat you in a way that is not loving.
  9. Learn to talk to yourself as you would the person you love most in the world.
    If you have a difficult time doing that, repeat affirmations to yourself. Look yourself in the eye in a mirror and repeat the things in a positive way that a person who loves themselves would say. Either in the first person (“I am….”) or the 2nd person (“You are….”). Whichever resonates better with you.
  10. And, each time you find yourself at a place where you are sabotaging yourself and not treating yourself in a loving way, bring yourself back to the question:

“What would someone who loved themselves do?”.

And then follow that advice.

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